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Sam Robb's avatar

I'm beans-agnostic, but if pushed, I do think I prefer them. Gives it a little more body, you know?

For groups, I lean on a few of things I learned while campaigning. This is more about "getting to know each other" in a social situation, like a party or an event; but most groups eventually have something like this, so it's good to know...

First, be as forward and friendly as you can. This can definitely take practice as an introvert; but you can learn to put on a "stage version" of you that's more outgoing. If you are able to be silly with kids, pets, or some other situation, identify that and try to bring up that feeling.

Second, there are better opportunities to introduce yourself into groups. Socially, adding a third person to a pair is much less awkward than adding another person to a group of 3+ people. So look for pairs of people to join and make a triple. Or, if you're with someone, look for a stray single to invite to join you (though that's harder, and you may have to wait for a bit until another group spins off someone...)

Third, if there are no pairs, it's possible to MAKE a pair if you have a companion. :) Spouses work very well for this, and many couples do this without being conscious of it. Say you see a group of four people talking - two men, two women (two couples). If a man and a woman approach them, you can often (but not always!) split into two groups of three (three men, three women) if you introduce both of yourselves at the same time (man approaches men, woman approaches women).

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Back Porch Writer's avatar

Loved the video of the pups! 🧡

As far as getting to know co-workers, that first staff meeting always shows me who is worth getting to know and who isn't. Then I wait for the social functions and talk with people about things outside work. Mostly I listen and smile. That helps them feel comfortable talking with me.

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